Over the years since I first became sexually active (in my late teens), I have always thought and believed that any sex technique has the ability to lead someone to an orgasm: oral sex, penile-vaginal sex, sex toys…every sex technique out there. For me at least, this has always turned out to be true. However, this does not seem to hold true when it comes to this new hot girl from London escorts that I am seeing. She is twenty nine and I am a male aged thirty four. Before we started seeing each other, we were both sexually active and we had had sexual experiences with our past partners. She is everything I need and want in a woman. Moreover, we are totally compatible in bed but there is a very big issue on our sexual encounters that is really bothering me. And this issue is that no matter how much my D game is, she only orgasms when I give her oral. This is so frustrating to me because first of all, I am not the biggest fan of oral sex out there. Nothing else that I try to use to help make her climax seems to do the trick, but the minute I put my mouth in her lady parts and starts pleasuring her with my mouth, she does not last for even three minutes before an earth-shattering orgasm rocks her entire body.
Does this mean that I am possibly doing the whole love making thing the wrong way? Apart from when giving oral sex? No matter how much I would like to believe that I am not doing anything wrong, or underdoing anything, I just cannot help but think that I am not pleasuring her enough in all the other fields. Well, at least to the point of orgasm that is. What makes it so frustrating is that of all my past partners, this is the one that I feel most connected to. We are like two long souls who have finally met each other. The only thing straining our relationship is that we both have very different paths that lead us to orgasm. Full-on penetration for me, and oral sex on her side. I just wish that she is as adaptable as I am. You see, like I have stated above, I can get off petty much easily through any sex technique, though I have an affinity for full-on penetration. She, on the other side, can only orgasm when given oral.
From the first time since we got intimate until now, I have never forced her to do anything in bet that she does not want to. We have been through quite a lot and we do not keep secrets away from each other. Since I first noted that only oral can give her release, I have been trying to broach this subject to her unsuccessfully, just until recently when she noticed my increased frustrations. I decided to come clean and told her what was making me so angry and irritable. Although she tried to convince me that it is not my fault, but rather how her anatomy operates, I am still not convinced. Could it be that my manhood is too small? Too big? Could it be that I am too dominating in bed, not giving her a chance to express her likes and dislikes? Or am I too impatient, always jumping on her before her body fully responds and her womanhood comfortably lubricates? The truth be told, I am not guilty of any of this. I have been told by a good number of my past sexual partners that my manhood is just right. When it comes to patience, I have on more than enough times let her take the lead in bed, only doing what she commands me to do at her own right time. But has this served to help? A big no!
It is for reasons like this that we recently decided to visit a sex advice expert from escorts in London in our town. These are some of the things she suggested we do in order to make my woman orgasm through other sex forms apart from oral sex.
The use of sex toys.
The said sex advice expert told us that unlike men who instantly respond and react to sexual stimuli, women take longer. As such, men tend to climax faster than women do. She also told us that it is not uncommon for women to start responding to sex stimuli when the man is on the verge of climaxing, leaving her when her body has just started responding. This, according to her, is why most women do not orgasm during vaginal sex. She advised us to try sex toys such as dildos and vibrators to prepare her and make her fully aroused before sex. We have been using toys for over two months and guess what? Nothing. Another big frustration.
According to the expert, assuming different roles in bed is a sure way of guaranteeing orgasm, regardless of the type of sex you engage in. She advised me to let her be the dominant partner and I the submissive partner for a while and see how things were going to out for us. No matter how many times we do it, it just does not help. Though there was this time she had almost been “there”. It really puts a dent on my male pride that the only way I can make my woman orgasm is through oral sex.
Not to pressure her.
Just like my girlfriend, the expert insisted that “the end justifies the means”. She told me that I should be happy and contented that my girl is among the very few women who are lucky enough to orgasm, no matter how she achieves this. As much sense as this makes, I just cannot help but blame myself for failing to make her climax through every other sex technique out there.
I know that I am being unfair to myself, and that I am putting a lot of unnecessary pressure on my woman, but I just cannot seem to shake it off. I just wish there was another way to make her climax, because her climaxing only when I give her oral is really frustrating!